The Importance of Taking Care of You
By Yvonne Hobbs
As women, we have a lot on our plates. We are raising children, running a household, being wives to our husbands, having a career of our own, and other various things that we do. Sounds like a lot, I know! And although we are all these things to other people, where are “we” on our to-do-list? While taking care of our families and others, who are indeed a blessing to us, sometimes we don’t provide ourselves with enough self-care. Unfortunately, as a result, we begin feeling overwhelmed with all the things that we’re juggling in our lives. Have you ever been there?
Ladies, we cannot continue to pour into everyone else without having anyone pouring into us. In this case, what happens is our cup will begin to run dry, and then we will have nothing to pour out at all. I, myself can relate.
The year of 2015 was my year of a total emotional breakdown. There was a loss in our family, my marriage of eight years was struggling, and I was still adjusting to living in a new state without my close family and friends. One night, I just couldn’t take it anymore! I dropped to my knees and I cried out to God like I had never cried out to Him before. I begged for Him to heal my brokenness. I started to pray, and I submerged myself into the Word of God. Proverbs 3:5-6 is what I referenced to a lot, when I was going through this tough time; along with prayer and counseling from our church.
After a few months, things started to turn around for me. I started attending the women’s small group at our church and finally started to open up about what was going on in my life. I was finally getting poured into by other women as I mentioned earlier. It felt amazing! I knew that it was nobody BUT GOD turning things around for me!
I now have a great support system in place. I have a great group of girlfriends that I can call on if I need them, the communication between my husband and I improved tremendously, and our marriage is better now than ever! I still include the Lord in my everyday life.
So ladies, I know that was a lot to take in, but before you hit rock bottom like I did, here are a few things that you can do for your own self-care:
- If you have a husband, fiancé, or boyfriend, please express to him the things that you need from him. Remember, men are not mind readers, even though we want them to be, lol! It also puts everyone on the same page. Do check-ins with each other to make sure everything is good.
- Do not be afraid to ask for help! It feels great when some of the pressures are lifted off of you.
- Attend a small group at your church. You will find women there just like you. Because the truth is, everyone is battling something.
- Surround yourself with a group of girlfriends you can trust and be transparent with.
- Get deep into Scripture, because it provides wisdom and direction in life.
I pray this becomes a blessing to you, as it was for me!
Yvonne Hobbs is a contributing writer for Inside Out with Courtnaye. She is also a wife and mother of two beautiful children, ages 14 and 18. Yvonne is originally from Minnesota, but relocated to Texas in 2014 to start a new life with her family. While she was nervous about the big move, she was excited to see what God had in store for her and her family. She has been working in the mortgage industry for 5 years, and even though this is how she makes her living, she recently discovered her passion for writing. And through her writing, she wants to help motivate, empower, and uplift women. Yvonne believes God has placed a gift in all of us, and she wants to help women tap into their true self, so they can begin to share their gift with the world, as well.
Get ready for your best year yet in 2018!
By Patty Garcia
There is no doubt 2018 can be our best year yet, and it will be - if we choose to seek God and His plan for our lives this year. Personally, I have done my will so many times and each time it failed. Doing it my way led to hurts, disappointments, and a lot of aches and tears. However, I’ve also done it God’s way, which has always led me to blessing, peace, and joy! His way is just better.
Proverbs 3:1-6 teaches us simple steps that we can all walk through. I want to point out a few of them here for you…
The first thing we need to do in order to walk out God’s plan for us in 2018 is to find out what God’s plan actually is for us. We do this by looking at Proverbs 3:1 and 2. It reads, “My child, never forget the things I have taught you. Store my commands in your heart. If you do this, you will live many years, and your life will be satisfying.”
So never forget the things you have been taught. Store God’s commandments in your heart. Spend time in the Word of God and find out what His promises are to you. Also, spend time in prayer asking Him to reveal His special plan for you in this new season – this New Year. I have to say, years ago, at Bible school I was taught to put the Word of God in me (even when it feels like I don’t need it), so that it will be there when I do need it. Needless to say, we will always need the Word of God!
The next thing that we need to do in order to walk out the plan of God in 2018 is to be kind! I find this one interesting. The Message version of Proverbs 3:4, tells us not to lose our grip on love and loyalty. It goes on to say that doing so earns us a good reputation with God and people. Hmm. Walking in love is a powerful thing and an ingredient to living a good life. God takes being kind and loyal seriously and so should we. My Pastor has taught me this very important lesson - It’s none of my business if YOU love me, rather, it is MY business to love YOU. Loving others and being kind to others changes lives.
I want to say here that the second part to that verse is being loyal. I believe this one has more to do with being loyal to God and His Word. This leads me to verse 5 about trusting God and not relying on our own understanding. Here’s the thing about facts. The facts of life may be telling you one thing, but the TRUTH of God’s Word says another. So whatever you need and desire in this life is found IN the Word of God! Go to IT and TAKE what has been given to you. I know I am! Remember, truth over facts any day!
I am ready for 2018, are you? Go ahead girl, take it on! You’ve got this. Remember, if God be for you, and HE is, then who in this world could be against you? Victory belongs to you! #knowthat Cheers to the best year of your life-YET!
Patty Garcia is a contributing writer for Inside Out with Courtnaye. She is a born again, spirit filled, Bible-believing child of God who gave her heart to Jesus at the age of 10. Immediately after high school she attended Texas Bible Institute in Columbus, TX. Since then, she has served God's people in the church while being a stay at home mom raising her children. She is a licensed minister under the leadership of her Pastor, Roxanne Alexander of Victory Church of Highland Lakes in Marble Falls, TX. Patty is also the women's ministry leader, youth leader as well as a team member in multiple ministry of helps areas for their church. Patty has been married to her creative husband, Hector for 13 years and together they have 3 beautiful gentle-hearted girls ages 12 years, 8 years, and 2 years old. Patty's heart is to reach and teach women from all walks of life about the power God has given to them to live this abundant life He promised us.