How to Respect Your Authority Effectively


Do you find that at times it can be a bit challenging to respect those who have authority over you? Meaning people like your boss, delegated leadership, husband if you’re married, teacher, spiritual leaders, police officers, etc. I know firsthand that it can be tough. But once I weigh it to the truth of what God’s Word says about it, it definitely carries more weight. And when we know this, that’s when we can become more effective in respecting them.

So let’s see what His word says about it, as it relates to those who have authority over us. Colossians 3:22-24 says this about how we should respond, “You slaves must obey your earthly masters in everything you do. Try to please them all the time, not just when they are watching you. Obey them willingly because of your reverent fear of the Lord. Work hard and cheerfully at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and the Master you are serving is Christ.” (NLT)

Now, when it talks about slaves, what it’s really saying is, “You servants.” And I know you want to hear someday, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant” right? So in order to hear those AWESOME words, then you and I will had to have served others well and been faithful in doing so, right? Right. Amen.

Furthermore, it’s telling us to obey those who have authority over us regardless to whether they are watching us or not. This is integrity. Now, I have to say that this doesn’t mean obey them if they’re telling you to do something sinful. God will never ask you to sin against Him through a leader or your husband. So please understand that, but if they are genuinely telling you that they need something done, then do it. Then God will be pleased with you. And of course this has to be done with the right attitude, because remember Colossians tells us to do it cheerfully.

And I know respecting authority cheerfully is not as easy as it seems. But again, once we hold this to the truth, the next step is to ask the Lord to help us to really set our thoughts and sights on Him, because ultimately that’s who we’re serving indirectly. And I believe that when we do this, it helps change our perspective as we do what’s being asked of us through our authority. Granted, yes, we may not always agree with them, but we still have to watch ourselves and show respect (hold them in high regard/esteem).

Another thing that I need to mention here is that we have to watch our attitudes, tone, body language, and words when it comes down to respecting authority, especially as women. James 1:19-20 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Your anger can never make things right in God’s sight.” (NLT) This Scripture has really helped me over the years when it comes down to respecting my authority.

The Bible itself helps tremendously, because once you know the truth, the Bible tells us that it will make us free (John 8:32). When it comes down to respecting my husband, this one helps, “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33 - NLT) This is His word. Pretty weighty, huh? It has a whole new meaning. And how about Proverbs 15:1 which says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” (NLT) This relates to dealing with anyone in authority. So we have to calm down, and choose our words carefully, because remember, they are in authority over us. This is what “respect” looks like in action. And it’s really all about humility.

Yes, humility plays a major role in respecting those who have authority over you. When we humble ourselves under God’s authority and those He’s placed in authority over us, He is so pleased with us. It makes Him not only smile, but promote and bless us in due season. First Peter 5:5-6, “And all of you, serve each other in humility, for ‘God sets himself against the proud, but he shows favor to the humble.’ So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and in his good time, he will honor you.” (NLT) I don’t know about you, but I want to please my Father and receive His favor. And I’m sure you do as well. And if we do, then we need to show respect to our leaders, husbands, teachers, parents, and the list goes on.

So as I prepare to close this post, realize that God sets all people in authority. He’s really the One in control. And guess what? He already knew and preordained every authority figure in your life before you were born. And guess what else? If you ever want to ever be in authority, you first have to come under authority (*that was just an extra nugget for those who are in a waiting season for promotion). And if you ever want to be married to a godly husband or even have a successful marriage, then you will have to learn how to come under your husband’s leadership to do God’s will together. So no matter where you are, know that you can accomplish this with the help of Jesus, the power of God’s word, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. It’s not easy, but it can be done, sis. Let’s do this, while we aim to please the heart of our Father by respecting our authority figures effectively.

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!


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About the Author:

Courtnaye Richard is a Christian blogger, author, and minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ. She is the founder of Inside Out with Courtnaye – a ministry designed to help women grow stronger in their walk with the Lord from a biblical and practical perspective, live out their life purpose, while also preparing them to be ready for the soon return of Jesus Christ. She’s all about real life, real talk, and real faith! She reaches thousands of women through blogging, but also ministers through devotionals, videos, audio messages, social media, speaking engagements, and her monthly “LIVE” chat on 1st Tuesdays of each month entitled, “Let’s Talk.“ She resides in the Texas Hill Country (outside of Austin, TX) with her husband and three children.


  1. Adeline Aguilar August 25, 2014 at 8:21 am - Reply

    dear courtnaye, thank you again for your wonderful words of encouragement! you have made it easy for us women to read what you wrote, and put together led by God’s Holy Spirit; we have no excuse. it’s easy for me to whole-heartedly agree with everything that you shared. the hard part is when i try to do it in my own strength. the key is for me to be completely weak and recognize “i” cannot accomplish this, but through Christ i can do all things! you are a blessing and you, your family, and your ministry(s) are in my thoughts and prayers! God bless! love, sista adeline 🙂 p.s. thanks for “liking” the facebook page i created. please feel free to join our facebook group which is also called Intentional and Simple. i’m all for encouraging each other in the ways of the Lord. 🙂

    • September 12, 2014 at 5:06 pm - Reply

      Thanks sis! I greatly appreciate this! I’m so grateful to God that this post ministered to you and thanks for your support. And yes, you can accomplish all things through Christ who gives you strength. Thanks for the blessing too sis. I receive it! Love you too and I pray that God blesses you as well with your ministry endeavors!

  2. mrs B August 25, 2014 at 8:27 am - Reply

    Hi Courtnaye,

    I would love to hear your views on husbands with special needs – neuropsychiatric disorders and such. What if the husband is not able to be the leader? What then?

    • September 12, 2014 at 5:02 pm - Reply

      Hi Mrs. B,

      Thanks for reading my post and writing in. Now in regards to your question. I can recall a time when I was younger and my grandmother had to take care of my disabled grandfather. No doubt, it was really tough for her, because he didn’t really treat her in the best way. But, even in the midst of seeing this, I still saw her be that beautiful submissive wife regardless to how he responded or his disability. She still respected her husband and served him well. That was so awesome to see, even as a child. Actually, she was the gracious woman who taught me about godly submission and what that looks like in real life.

      So I would encourage you to still show respect towards your husband the best way that you can. Continue to serve Him as you would Christ, and I believe that God will honor that. Don’t give up. This is love in action and in due season, He will reward you. I pray this helps and finds you well.

  3. Mercedes August 25, 2014 at 2:40 pm - Reply

    This was a great article! I can admit that I have always struggled with authority figures. It wasn’t until I realized that I must be humble in every situation, otherwise I will never be able to do and have more opportunities.
    Thanks for the insight on this topic!

    • September 12, 2014 at 4:54 pm - Reply

      So true! Amen. Thanks for writing in Mercedes.

  4. Marian September 19, 2014 at 6:19 pm - Reply

    This was very helpful to me,I have struggle with authority for year,but after reading your article and much prayer through the years, I realized that I was blowing my blessing,NOW I TAKE HEART AND HUMBLE MYSELF BEFORE THE MIGHTY HAND OF GOD. Thank you so much for those words of encouragements.The leading of the Holy Spirit.When we Love God we are willing to do right before him!

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